Top 5 Reasons People Avoid Counselling
1. The Financial Aspect
Yes, coming to counselling will cost money. Think of counselling as an investment in your life, whether it is individual counselling or couples counselling. Time with an experienced & qualified therapist will provide you with techniques & skills for life.
2. Fear of Talking About Emotions
The thought of tackling big emotional issues can be overwhelming, especially if you have never talked with a counsellor before. This is normal, and your counsellor will help you tackle issues piece by piece, and give you realistic goals so you won’t be overwhelmed. Discussing your feelings and experiences with your therapist in a safe and confidential environment can be a positive experience. During counselling sessions you will learn how to handle painful feelings and will always be in control of what and when you want to share.
3. Asking for Help is Hard
If you pride yourself on being self-sufficient, stepping into a counsellor’s office might feel like you are letting yourself down. You might think you can handle your problems on your own, and that asking for help means you are weak. On the contrary — counselling helps you build stronger self-esteem and learn new tools for handling life’s challenges.
4. “I don't believe talking can do any good”
Talking can actually do a lot of good. Discussing something with someone who cares & is non-judgmental helps relieve the emotional pressure caused by keeping our thoughts and feelings to ourselves. But counselling involves much more than just talking. It provides a way for us to understand who we are and how we relate to the world around us. In counselling the focus is on aspects of our experience that we may have been unaware of. This provides new ways of looking at our problems and often gives us new ways to handle these problems.
5. “It has to be a huge issue before I talk with a professional”
Some people think, 'I have to be in crisis,' or, 'The intensity of the issue has to be so bad before I need to go to counselling'. But often, people can benefit from counselling for something as simple as needing help reaching a specific goal, or seeking relief from a difficult situation. Keep in mind that these issues will be there whether you enter counselling or not —when you go to counselling you can start to work through them. And you can stay in control of when & what you want to share.